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September 2013



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Settling in...

...into my new life, that is. After having a long distance friendship for 10 years, then a long distance relationship for some time, and then a long distance marriage since last September, my life changed completely when my husband finally got to retire and move here, 3 weeks ago. I wondered how I would adjust, having been single for 11 years after my first husband's death, and being rather stunningly independent.

Quite well, thanks! We complement eachother, often thinking of the same thing at the same time, sharing tastes, blending work and lifestyles (remember that word from the '70s?). We respect one another's space and needs, we seem to be able to talk about everything, and reach a compromise, if necessary, with a minimum of angst. We both like quiet, so that's wonderful, too.

He is taking care of things I was never very good at--paying bills on time, balancing the checkbook, dealing with details that have never been my forte, just my lot. (Harris did NONE of that!)

We've had lovely times at the lake, as these images attest; he loves the outdoors as much as I do, or more.

Canadas at Watkins Mill Lake

He's organizing my space to make things work better for me...and to make them OUR space, which they are. And I find that then I want to organize "stuff" to make it work better for him, too. This is his home too, now, our home, and I need for him to be comfortable here. I don't want him to feel like a guest.

He's a delight to cook for, being somewhat adventurous and very appreciative; I like to cook, as does he (we sort of take turns) so that has worked out very well. (He makes KILLER deviled eggs and crab cakes!)

The most important transition took place this week--we finally got the laptop up and running, and on a network so he can go online at the same time I do rather than sharing this computer. For a workaholic who works from home, this was the biggest adjustment for me! ;-P

Yep, I think this is going to work very well indeed...


i love an ongoing story that is a work in progress that does just that--progress. one of the things that good ol' nietschke said that i appreciated was that "marriage is a long journey in the same direction". maybe ol' frederick wasn't such a total nihilist, after all...

i'm glad you two are sharing that journey. it does my heart good. you guys make my heart smile!
Yep, we both know that marriage takes work and communication--just glad we CAN communicate! We're pretty good at it, in fact, and often without the need for many words.

And dear girl, it makes OUR hearts smile to know you are our friend. We were just talking about you, last night.
Good, because it's too late to send him back to the store now ;D.
Glad the little wrinkles have been hit with the celestial steam iron.
I believe you're right! Dowanna, anyway, it's an almost perfect fit. (I say "almost" 'cause I'm superstitious!) And me too, sweetie...hooray, networked computers! Hooray wireless! And XOXO right back at you!

Edited at 2008-08-03 11:13 pm (UTC)


Glad to hear that it's all going so swimmingly. Maybe now is the time for congratulations rather than last year at the ceremony...
Thank you, Miss Casey! I'm very happy...and yes, this is a great time for congratulations, gratefully accepted!
So happy for you! And it IS awesome to be able to co-laptop.
Hope the adjustments are fun, funny and exciting.
Thank you! Who woulda thought I'd need a network right here in my little house!? But...it's OUR little house, now, and it's great. I can look in there and see him working quietly away...

So far, quite, quite fun, thank you for that, too!
Thank you, sweet thing! I don't know about deserving, but it certainly is welcome!
Well, girl, I feel pretty selfish sometimes! But yes, I agree about the law of the Universe. The good we do, no matter how small, makes the world a better place and that can't help but benefit all of us.

So happy for you and Joseph!

Kate - It sounds like a wonderful relationship - two trees standing side by side with gentle overlapping leaves - both strong and independent, but together. Just perfect!

Re: So happy for you and Joseph!

Thank you! I love your imagery here...